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YOU DON'T KNOW IT UNTIL IT BECOMES YOU

Oftentimes, we hear that we should not judge  situations that we have not been in but I'm not sure that we understand this well enough.

And I think that this is because of the privilege that life hands over to us in certain situations; the privilege to stand at one side of the road and pass judgements to the person at the other side. But this privilege doesn't eliminate the point that you are just as human as the other person and that it could have been you at that other side save chances and maybe choices. 

I'm not a prophetess of doom, but "never say never" will make much sense to you when it becomes you in some situations. Then you'll know that all there is to life is not being on social media and analyzing who did what right and who did what wrong.

You will also understand that it is much easier to watch things happen to others from afar and just give sweet- smelling counsels. It's really easy to be the one advising so many times rather than taking the advice. It is just how it is.

When you get into a toxic relationship yourself and not know how to leave, you'll understand why it was equally hard for your friend to take that bold step and leave even when it was the right thing to do.

I'm not trying to say that you must have an experience before you advise someone. And by experience, I mean that you must have been in a similar situation and not just watched it happen. 

What I'm saying that we should rest with the "If it was me, I would have..." because until it becomes you, you'll never really know what you would have done.

And be more humane.

It is really difficult to know where and how a person's shoe pinches when you're not the one wearing it. 

Be kind.



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  1. UnknownFebruary 21, 2022 at 10:24 AM

    Being kind... My watch word for the week. Thank you for that piece!❣️

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    1. FavourchimamakaFebruary 28, 2022 at 2:21 AM

      Thank you for reading. Kindness should be our watchword for every day.

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  2. AnonymousFebruary 21, 2022 at 5:15 PM

    I wonder how or what you'd be writing when you're like 50 or so... This is such a beautiful piece, as always.

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    1. FavourchimamakaFebruary 28, 2022 at 2:21 AM

      Your words are so kind and they mean a lot to me. Thank you.

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    2. DimmaMarch 3, 2022 at 10:49 AM

      I'm telling you. She is too good in this.

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    3. DimmaMarch 3, 2022 at 10:49 AM

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