MUSINGS ON MICHELLE OBAMA'S BECOMING

I've been reading Michelle Obama's Becoming and in a page where she tried to talk about how her background differs from Barrack's, she wrote- "His story was his story" and for some reason, this line which at first glance appeared very simple and not "deep" stood out for me.

"His story was his story"

It made me think about how often we want our lives to go in other ways that are different from what we have right now. How we spend time to think that just maybe if we were born into a different family or grew up in a different environment or attended a different school, that our lives could have been better. Or that we could have had a "better" story.

There is no "better" story and there's beauty in my story and your story is what I'm learning from Michelle.

Your story may not glitter but there's value and beauty in it. You've got to believe this. There's beauty in the entirety of your story- from the neighborhood where you grew up to the kind of meals you ate and the schools you attended and this beauty is simply because YOUR STORY IS YOURS.

Your story is your story. Accept it. Embrace it. Stop dwelling on things that could have been. Work with things that are and embrace every part of your story. You own it.

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