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"If it gives you peace, do it" is what my sister once told me when I was seeking for her advice on a particular situation and this is so much more than good advice. At the end of the day, I found the solution to my problem not by following conventions but simply by listening to what I really wanted to do. I hope you realize early that no one's experience is accepted as the standard and that there are situations that would require your voice and yours only. There are no hard and fast rules to situations like this. At the very end, you've got to choose your self. Your peace. Your voice. Here you would answer, "what works for you?" and not how everyone has been going about it? It's a world filled with many voices; speaking out what they've probably tried and what they think works, but you must learn to have a voice and also know when to pay attention to what it's saying.

"Death gives you perspective." I first saw this line on a person’s Facebook post and it made so much sense to me. I have never really been bothered with the issue of death up until 2021 when I lost a beautiful auntie, God rest her soul, and this experience made me to begin to think about death more often, my death even. That a time will come in my life and all I’ll have about my dad, mum, some aunties and uncles and even some friends will all be memories. And up till today, I have never really understood this but it is something that must happen. It could also be me dead and all they will have about me will be memories. Memories which I hope will bring them laughter and not tears. I think experiencing death closely brings a lot of changes to the way that a person views life.  There’s something I normally would say to any of my sibling whenever they refuse to give me something that I asked for and that thing is, “Uwa bu turn by turn Nigeria limited” (I’m not even sure how Nige...

  I think that the way God designed life is that it be in stages. Stages that come and go. These stages also appear to be designed in a way that you get to only live them once. When I entered the university newly, before going back every semester, my mum would pack my bags. Even during the times that I tried to grow up and do my thing, I would make a mess of it and she would repack it beautifully. Sincerely, I enjoyed those moments. Fast-forward to now, this is my last semester in the university and on the day that I should pack my bags for school, my mum is seen nowhere around me or whatever I’m doing. But she did well to remind me to pack well because she wouldn’t be doing that anymore for me. Literally, this experience teaches that time happens to every stage in one’s life and the good news is, there’s absolutely nothing that you can do about this. There could be something though and that thing is to make sure to enjoy every moment and stage and also make the most of it. ...

This is one question that almost everyone asks themselves before taking any step-in life that seems huge. I also asked myself when I was getting ready for a debate for the first time in my secondary school. I wasn't sure if I had what it takes to stand before the crowd and defend a cause. " Am I going to sound convincing enough?" "Were they going to believe what I had to say ?" I had plethora of questions but these questions were only going to be answered if I got out on that field and did the debate. Truth is, you'll never know if you have what it takes for a job until you take a step and "put yourself out there" like a friend once advised me to. This isn't something you've never heard before but you're really doing yourself no good by waiting to figure everything out before taking a step. For years, I fancied with the idea of creating a blog. I would read about blogs, go to other people's blogs (already made people) and co...