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WORRY A LITTLE ABOUT DEATH

"Death gives you perspective." I first saw this line on a person’s Facebook post and it made so much sense to me.

I have never really been bothered with the issue of death up until 2021 when I lost a beautiful auntie, God rest her soul, and this experience made me to begin to think about death more often, my death even. That a time will come in my life and all I’ll have about my dad, mum, some aunties and uncles and even some friends will all be memories. And up till today, I have never really understood this but it is something that must happen. It could also be me dead and all they will have about me will be memories. Memories which I hope will bring them laughter and not tears.

I think experiencing death closely brings a lot of changes to the way that a person views life. 

There’s something I normally would say to any of my sibling whenever they refuse to give me something that I asked for and that thing is, “Uwa bu turn by turn Nigeria limited” (I’m not even sure how Nigeria found its way into this quote of mine but it means literally that it’s your turn now, but it will be my turn next time). This means that the biscuit or whatever that they’re holding onto today will not be there forever and may become tomorrow.

 This is exactly how I see death. Like “turn by turn Nigeria limited." Doesn’t really matter who goes first because we’re all going.

You ever been in a public transport before and see anyone refuse to get down when they get to their destination? Maybe yes or no. But even if you decide to follow the driver home, both you and the driver will eventually get down from the bus. It doesn’t matter when but I bet you, you will surely get down.

So, you just worry a little about death because it happens to all.

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  1. Kingdavid OtitoJanuary 18, 2022 at 8:47 AM

    This is a beautiful piece.

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  2. israelchuksJanuary 19, 2022 at 9:47 AM

    Nne thanks for this piece.
    Uwa bu turn by turn Nigeria limited, this one really click ooo

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  3. DimmaMarch 3, 2022 at 10:45 AM

    Mm...Turn by turn my sister. Losing a loved one has a way of shifting one's mindset about life. You write so well💯💯

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  4. Praise PaulMarch 19, 2022 at 8:36 PM

    Wow! I really write beautifully, enchanting, engrossing, funny & somehow straight to the point! Awesome piece!

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