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How to not lose someone you love

Have you ever hurt someone or gotten in a very bad place with someone you genuinely care about?

Here are some tips that could help you revive your relationship with that person.

1. Be honest with yourself: By being honest, you must accept that you need this person and that you do not want to lose them forever regardless of what may have happened. Forget that they say no man is indispensable, but you know that there are just people you can't afford to lose.
This acceptance helps you take away pride; that feeling that makes you think you don't need them even you know that you do.

2. Get to know the details: Many times, it is not proper to leave certain things unsaid when you hurt people. You should hear from them if they're willing to speak to you and know how your actions directly or indirectly affected them. What this does is that it helps your apology that will come afterwards not to exist in a vacuum. You must know what exactly you're being sorry for in order to help you not to repeat these actions later.

3. You must own your part: This means to take responsibility for your part in whatever caused the problem. Even if you didn't directly cause the problem, you must have somehow contributed through your reactions. That is your part and you should own it. Constantly pushing the blame to another person or circumstance doesn't solve the problem. You must take responsibility for your actions and reactions.

4. Genuinely ask for forgiveness: Now, note the word genuinely. Remember that this person means a lot to you right? So, you must honestly apologize for your wrong doings in order to move on. You must say the words. Don't ask for forgiveness through actions only.

5. Book a happivibe call: Happivibe is a business that offers special calling services. You can reach out to them and book a call for that person and let them know your intention for calling. Trust me, those guys were made for stuff like this and they always deliver. You can reach out to them through their Facebook page, Happivibe Services and get to know more about their services.

6. Be intentional about making this relationship work again: When you are finally forgiven (I say finally because forgiveness may not really come immediately after the apology), you must do all it takes to earn the trust of this person again. It's not gonna be easy but it's something you've got to do.

Hey, don't forget that:
Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul (Proverbs 27:9.)

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  1. Kingdavid OtitoJanuary 27, 2022 at 12:45 PM

    Some people are angels in our lives and are NOT replaceable.
    So great it is to have such people. I learnt this sometime ago.

    Thank you for this, Favour.

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    1. FavourchimamakaJanuary 27, 2022 at 8:53 PM

      Yeah. They're not exactly the spirit kind of angels, but they are angels in deeds and we've got to do all we can to see that they remain in our lives.

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  2. FavourchimamakaJanuary 27, 2022 at 8:51 PM

    You are welcome, and thank you for reading.

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