The Best Way to Tell your Truth

The truth hurts but it should not kill. Truth can kill when you tell it in an unkind manner.

I'm particularly concerned about how you tell your truth when it comes to love and friendship.

So many persons in the name of correction have actually ended up worsening the cases they tried to correct.

Therefore, there's need to pay attention to the manner through which the things that need to be said in your relationships are said so that you don't tear down the walls you're trying to patch.

Don't use "calling a spade, a spade or saying things the way they are" to mask wickedness. It's so low. Don't do it.

For awhile, I've been a preacher of intents and focusing on the heart while overlooking the things that are actually being said in the name of love, but if I'm being honest with you, it is very hard.

You know why it's hard to focus on intents? It is because the weight of things being said sometimes overshadows the intents. It makes us unable to see through your heart.

It's hard to see that you love me when you to try hard tell me to step up my dress sense game by saying, "You always look like a fool when you are going out" with a sprinkle of laughter here and there.

That you mean well should not be an excuse to speak to people you love in a disrespectful manner.

The very scary thing about words is that once they are out, they can't be taken back.

Don't spoil your relationships because you want to say things exactly the way they are without caring about who gets hurt.

Even in telling your truth, choose to tell it kindly.

And to tell your truth kindly, I recommend that you;

~Take a deep breath

~Think your truth through

~State that it is coming from a place of love and

~Be careful not to use abusive words

The best way to tell your truth is in love. It yields better result.

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