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 The truth hurts but it should not kill. Truth can kill when you tell it in an unkind manner. I'm particularly concerned about how you tell your truth when it comes to love and friendship.  So many persons in the name of correction have actually ended up worsening the cases they tried to correct. Therefore, there's need to pay attention to the manner through which the things that need to be said in your relationships are said so that you don't tear down the walls you're trying to patch. Don't use "calling a spade, a spade or saying things the way they are" to mask wickedness. It's so low. Don't do it. For awhile, I've been a preacher of intents and focusing on the heart while overlooking the things that are actually being said in the name of love, but if I'm being honest with you, it is very hard. You know why it's hard to focus on intents? It is because the weight of things being said sometimes overshadows the intents. It makes us unab...

You may think an unhealthy relationship is far from you, but I can't guarantee you that if you or your partner falls into the following category.  Don't be in a hurry to leave. Stay tuned for this unveiling. 1. The people whose hobby is table turning: Are you familiar with the term "table turning?" If you're not, I'll tell you what it means. Do you know those people who never admit that they are at fault or believe that they have a hand in any wrongdoing but always find a way to make everything your fault? They are the table turners. So, he or she does something that is clearly wrong but by the time the story is told 3-4 times, they manage to make it your fault and you end up apologizing for what you don't know. 2. The people who "call a spade, a spade": These ones with their mouths sharp as razor specialize in telling their kind of truth. Their mic is always on. All they know about being supportive is calling a spade a spade and saying things th...

On good days(almost everyday), you can call me an expressive person. By expressive, I show and tell exactly how I feel. I just hate to sweep my feelings under the carpet and even if I try to do so, it doesn't help. Therefore, I'm always like, "I couldn't have done stuff without you. Thank you so much" or "That thing you did to me yesterday, I don't like it" or "you talked down on me and made me feel so little, don't ever do it again." No matter how hard I try, I'm not sure I will ever join the "be the mature person and be silent" gang. I won't survive it. Many times, if I can't say how I feel, I literally feel like something's choking me. Being a Christian who is working towards perfection, somehow, I learnt to apply this expressiveness in my relationship with God and it has really helped me.  So I literally talk about everything and anyhow I feel. I just tell it to God and it helps because, He would know how e...