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 It is always something you should not have said or done that damages your relationship with someone you care about or not. And it is in this manner that I want to talk about regret. Not the one that is a result of things beyond your control but the ones which you could have controlled but overlooked. Nothing makes you feel like shit the way this kind of regret does.  My friend once told me that regret is the worst emotion and I completely agree. Because how does something make you dwell on it and not move forward because you're thinking a thousand things you should have done better and rarely presents you with an opportunity to rewind time in order for you to do better? Usually, the problem here is not really whether you are sorry or not but that the deed has been done and there is no going back. This kind of regret just says, "It is what it is" and expects you to accept it even if it makes you cry every night. This type of regret gets even worse in the matter of death. ...

Oftentimes, we hear that we should not judge  situations that we have not been in but I'm not sure that we understand this well enough. And I think that this is because of the privilege that life hands over to us in certain situations; the privilege to stand at one side of the road and pass judgements to the person at the other side. But this privilege doesn't eliminate the point that you are just as human as the other person and that it could have been you at that other side save chances and maybe choices.  I'm not a prophetess of doom, but "never say never" will make much sense to you when it becomes you in some situations. Then you'll know that all there is to life is not being on social media and analyzing who did what right and who did what wrong. You will also understand that it is much easier to watch things happen to others from afar and just give sweet- smelling counsels. It's really easy to be the one advising so many times rather than taking the...

This is my fifth year in a university that I should have originally spent four years in and if life ain't teaching me lessons through this experiences, then I don't know when it ever will. I'll share five lessons that this strike which has become a yearly event in Nigeria, my country, has taught me. (1). Life Happens: This is the biggest lesson that I've learnt. ASUU Strike has taught and as a matter of fact, is still teaching me that life happens to people. ASUU says that it is okay to have plans and at the same time accept shit when it happens because they're all part of life. Talking about plans, by now I thought that I would be somewhere in some secondary school in Akwaibom or Abuja, teaching with my khaki and impacting my students and making the world a better place in my own little way. LOL. Just for the records, I'm still being impacted by my lecturers. But of course, I believe I'm still making my own little contribution to the world through these blo...

As you relate with people on daily basis, be rest assured you that not many stories will end the way you want it to. It is not in your place to end stories that are not yours no matter how similar it sounds.  Your ability to recognize that stories may sound similar but have different endings will save you from the stress of always running to conclusion or living a life of regret after every quick judgement. So it is the same teenage pregnancy but could have happened under different circumstances. Same childlessness, but chances are that it is not a product of "university days wayward life." Same exam failure but not exactly a product of non diligence.  Before you make judgements, get to know the full story.  Your kindness extends to being patient to hear the full story (where it began and where it ended) without making inputs or running to conclusion because you think you know how these stories always end. Resist the urge to end stories that are not yours. At the end of t...

I am sure you are wondering what this is all about but you got to keep an open mind while you read because this is an unpopular opinion. For a start, let me define impulsiveness. It involves doing things or tending to do things suddenly and without careful thought. I could go on and on listing the damages that impulsive behaviours could bring to a person's life but if we are kind enough to give impulsiveness a second chance, we would see that it could be helpful at times and that it does not always result in regrets. Therefore, we would examine impulsiveness which is in close relationship with spontaneity or taking decisions in the heat of the moment without thinking it through. Over thinkers are most likely the ones who reap rewards from the risk of impulsiveness. If you have not found a way yet out of over thinking and you always seem to get in your head while evaluating and reevaluating situations, you should risk being impulsive at some moments. An over thinker is likely n...

David: Hey, what does the time say? Naza: It's 11:59pm David: Oh my God, I should hurry and send Chioma a birthday test before we enter a new day. Naza: How is that even possible? Eh? David: Okay. I'm done. Naza: What does the text read? David: Happy birthday(with a love emoji) I'll tell you the remaining story. David had a very long day at work. I hope that explains why he couldn't send the text early to Chioma "who means a lot to him." But of course, Chioma should understand. Is it just me or have you also noticed that there's something about the end of seasons that make us think about our lives so deeply? Just like how the death of someone close to you makes you realize that death is not a myth and that it is wise to make the most of the time you have left even if it is just a few months? Like how you have an exam tomorrow and would want to read all the materials in one night?  The same way you spend five years in a university or a workplace and in your...